One way communication

All situations have their outlaws, even the social ones. The rules are quite simple but not everyone can understand them. There are thieves lurking in every corner, that wont hesitate to nick anything with a value.

Recently i've been introduced to the worst kind of thief there is. The kind of thief that steals someting intangible, something very precious, something that is essential to your well beeing!

-YOUR ENERGY!

There is a person that literary drain my battery, leaving me without any energy at all. And the worst thing is it happens on a daily basis. I've been managing the situation up until now by trying to be somewhere else mentally while this person interact with me, but now i've had enough. I have to act!

The simple social rules i mentioned earlier doesn't apply to this person. At least he won't live by them because all he does is talk.



My other half won't believe me when i tell her so i took the liberty to record one of our "chats" on the local commute from work (thats right, he commutes with me on a daily basis as well). Our commute is around 30 min and i recorded the first two. During those two minutes he talked for 1:59 and i managed to squeeze in an "aha". This goes on for the full 30.

That's how our transport to and from work is, every day. But now i have to tell him that it can't continue.

People: Never steal someones energy, borrow it for a short while but always, ALWAYS pay it back!!

Adapting to a new environment

I am surprised how quickly you can adapt to a new environment. We arrived in this country and got our new home just 4-5 weeks ago and already it feels like it's the natural environment. Something that  feels weird is how you completely shut off the things you left behind.

I thought before we went here that you would miss things like family, friends and simple things such as apartment and it's surroundings. For me personally, i don't miss a thing. More of the opposite actually. I feel better than ever before!

I love life!

3 observations related to group training

I've been looking into a bit of group dynamics over the last week.

I am on an intense journey through different training and courses related to business at my job and some things strike me as interesting each time i go to these kind of things.

When in a big group of say 60 people it's not always easy to "stick out". Yet all of us does our own ways. At least if you look at it from a distance.

I will give you the three following examples that i find are present at every course or interactive seminar i attend:

1. The good pupil.

    There will always be an example of the good pupil present at each and every one of these kind of courses, be there management courses or general function/product oriented courses. You know who i am talking about, this is the person that are there just to please the tutor. Hands up all the time and ready to show their talent. These people are often the people that tend to focus a bit to much at the process rather than the main goal of the course. The intelligence of them should however not be questioned, they are often the sharpest knives in the box.

2. The natural

     You know this person from the second you see them. There are always a natural attending and they are the people i tend to admire the most. These guys could "sleep" through anything and come out as no. 1 every single time. They yawn their way through the theory just to outperform anyone in the practical assessments. A natural can do most things with the left hand... Something most of us look up to.

3. The clown

     Have you met this character? They will make you laugh and contribute with the best of mood. They often glue the group together with their friendly way. However they will very rarely perform and can make you crazy. The clown is needed but still redundant. Without the clown the group collapses. The natural falls asleep, no one listens to the good pupil and the general public goes in different directions.

This tells us that people are different but equally needed...

Endurance or perseverance

In life in general, as in most activities, we talk a lot about endurance and perseverance. We look up to those who follow through and makes something of themselves.
-They are just two words for the same thing! You might think. But that's not really true.

A lot of people would probably know that already, but for me it was something i never thought of until today.

I was out doing my regular running in a nearby park and in my meditative breathing and at my most comfortable pace i tend to do a lot of thinking. Thoughts go through my mind about most things in life, and today it came down to two words describing, to most people, positive characteristics.
So, i started thinking, what would i prefer to be in the eyes of others? He who endures or he who persevere?

Endurance is all about being put through pain and suffering and to come out intact at the other end.
In order to be enduring you have to put yourself through things that hurt you, are scary, dangerous or unpleasant, and deal with them.

Perseverance on the other hand is in my interpretation more about experiencing difficulties doing something you like, to feel a hindrance to complete something you wish for. To persevere would be to complete anyway, to look at the thing you like doing and think to your self: "of course there will be ups and downs, the important thing is that i am doing something i love"

Then, who would i rather be in the eyes of others? Thats not really what i should think about, i realize...

I know what i rather be in my own eyes. I rather be he who persevere than he who endures.
So i will keep doing what i love, and skip the other things...